People often want to know what I did, how I created so much magic in my life:

• The most incredible intimate relationship with the love of my life.  A relationship beyond my dreams.
• An easy and effortless business I love with soulmate clients I love.
• A growing sisterhood - relationships with incredible women I love (after spending most of my life with mostly male friends and keeping women friendships at a distance).
• Evolved my relationship with money to a place of empowered peace and love (instead of fear).
• Healed big Trauma and set myself free from the trauma prison I spent over 40 years inside of.
• Came to know and own my personal power, the infinite being I AM, my worth, and how to create everything I desire in my life.
•  And even more…

Choosing Me, Choosing Love is how I did all of this.

This program is quite literally where I started with myself: changing my relationship with ME, beginning in 2011.

This program is the foundation of everything I have created in my life since 2016 when I radically chose me, my life, my dreams, my future.

I’ve been facilitating this content with clients since 2017.  It has evolved and grown, like me.

Let's zoom out for some perspective...

I spent upwards of $300k on personal development: courses, programs, trainings, and coaches to evolve me and my businesses, to “solve” my “problems.”

But it was never about my “problems.”

It was always about ME.

Let’s put some context in here:

My entire life had never been about me.  I put other people first, I catered to others, I made my decisions based on what I’d been conditioned with from society, my family, or the men in my life.

I did what I “thought” I was supposed to and my life felt like an uphill battle in deep, wet snow.

I was “successful” by societal standards, yet I was not fulfilled or satisfied.

In December 2011, one of my best friends died - the person I loved most in the world.

It was a huge wake up call to me.

So began a long, slow road learning to make my life about me.

For years, I really focused on making it truly, authentically about me from a grounded, self-loving, self-accepting space.

To learn what I wanted for me, to find my joy and happiness, and even to return to my spirituality (something I’d hidden in a dark closet inside of me since my early 20s).

All of it was deeply uncomfortable.

Then March 23, 2016 happened.

That day, I made one of the hardest decisions of my life: I chose me over a man I was deeply in love with.

It scared the sh*t out of me.

My friends showed up in spades to support me in my OMG-I-can’t-believe-I-am-doing-this-this-is-so-f*ing-uncomfortable decision.

For 30 days, a different person called me everyday.  The purpose of the calls was to be held, to be witnessed.

I had the opportunity to process and be with what I was choosing, to be present with myself without having to explain it all to the people I was connecting with.  To just be with myself and receive the support of someone else. 

That month led into 7 courageous years of me showing up and FULLY, whole-heartedly, no-f*cks-given, unapologetically choosing me.

And what about the $300K of investments to “solve” my “problems”?

In all of that, no one ever taught me how to whole-heartedly choose myself.

I had to learn this and figure it out mostly on my own.

And learning to choose me has made all the difference.

So, let’s turn this to you.

What has it cost you to “solve” your “problems”?

How’s that working for you?

For some of you, it’s not.

For others, it may be working okay, yet you keep creating the same patterns and problems, wondering when the cycles will stop.

For some others, you may be doing a decent job and wondering why you are stuck.

For even others, you may be doing a great job yet fear/worry/anxiety run you in the background and it takes an enormous amount of your energy to keep it all going and all you want is a reprieve, to relax, to trust and know it will all be okay.

I can go on, yet I think you all are getting the point.  And I’ve experienced all of that myself.

What’s at the CORE of all of these scenarios?

What is the common denominator in your life?

YOU.

It’s about YOU.

And now that there is conscious awareness of what I went through and experienced as I learned to choose me, I get to stand in my power and magic to support you, to model to you, to ask YOU the right questions so you can choose you over and over.

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Here come the next questions…

WHEN are you going to CHOOSE YOU?  

Take a stand for you?

Be all in FOR YOU?

Your future?

Your life?

Your dreams?

Your goals?

Love?

No one else can choose you for you. 

 I want you to know you are not alone and you get to be human - perfectly imperfect and learning new ways of choosing to support you.

Because this is where you learn to choose yourself and love yourself even more.

Do this choosing of you with others who are choosing themselves, too. 

Because when we do it together, it is easier, our growth is exponential, one person’s healing is everyone’s healing.

I show up in this space to support you in choosing YOU.

For many of you, it will also mean breaking-up with:

Doing everything for others.

Putting yourself last.

Feeling guilty when you take care of yourself first.

I know.  I’ve been through all of that.

You can do this.  This course and the extended community are here to help.

One of the things I learned in all my personal development is that we all need MODELS, because we learn the best unconsciously.

What exactly does that mean?

We learn through watching others.  And then we do what they do.

And unfortunately, most of us were NOT modeled great things about self-care, self-love, self-compassion, self-trust, self-forgiveness, self-worth…

Especially as women.  

(Guys, there are also plenty of you who resonate deeply with this.  So stick around.)

Women are conditioned - MODELED - to put others before, and often above, themselves.

And shame on you if you take care of you, first.  How dare you?  You are selfish.

I invite you to be selfish!  To flip the switch and choose you, first.

I dare you.

Take a moment and notice how you feel right now.

~ If you feel called to this, if you feel something inside of you leaning into this, desiring this, lighting up from this…then know you get to choose what is right for you.

~ You get to be supported in your big vision and the magic of who you are to create that vision.  You get to create the life you desire.  You get to breathe easier and feel more expansion in your life.

~ You get TO!  Now, are you ready to?

Great!  Let’s do the details.

Choosing Me, Choosing Love includes:

• When you enroll, you will be prompted to set up a username and password (or login if you already have Ecstatic Collective courses).
  
  
• Your login details will also be emailed to you.
  
  
• Login to the course portal at: ecstaticcollective.com/login
  
  
• You get to stay engaged - in our online community plus connect with us on Social Media.  All those links are available to you in the online course portal.

What is the value of choosing YOU?

What does choosing YOU do for your life?

Your goals?

Your dreams?

Your relationships?

What is the value of transformation to you?

What is the value of upleveling your life?

The value of the content of Choosing Me, Choosing Love is priceless.

My life is an expression of learning to choose me - that is priceless!

I believe in and know the power of this work.  And I am taking divinely guided action to do somethings I've never done before in business:

1. You get lifetime access WITH all future updates (at no additional cost) AND...

2. When Rising With Love: Oneness opens for enrollment, you receive a credit for Choosing Me, Choosing Love towards Rising With Love: Oneness (in the form of a discount code emailed to you). 

It is a win-win-win.

Your current self wins, your future self wins, the people around you win, all of your relationships win, the world wins.

 Allow your Inner Voice or your body to be your guide as you decide this is right for you.

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Check your inbox upon enrollment!

I’m so excited for you to choose you & the infinite positive impact this decision has on your life, relationships, and the world!

WELCOME!

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Hi beautiful human!  I’m Dena (aka Dalai Grace) and I love to help people.  I love to help people choose themselves so they can get out of their own way.  I love to help people figure out what they want in life and go get it.  I love to help people clean up their past so they can have the life they’ve always desired.  I love to help people level up inside and out!

My love of helping people and working with people started early.  I took my first social-emotional training at age 7.  That started years of training in conflict management and mediation, leadership, communication, facilitation, and more – all before graduating high school.

By 15, I was already teaching personal development courses and planning events and experiences.  My trajectory and training continued throughout my education (including 2 masters degrees) and a 17-year career (that I loved).

People love me.  I’ve been a leader, facilitator, teacher, mentor, and coach my entire life.  I make things easy to learn and digest.  I bring play and fun to the table.  I’m a great speaker - I’m fun to listen to AND I’m engaging.  I’m vulnerable and authentic.  I give people their power back.  Yes, I’m tooting my horn here because I know what I have to offer and it is all damn good.  This is me choosing to shine the light I am!

That’s why I am here.  One of my mentors recognized the magic I have working with all types and styles of people.  She saw how I led and mentored 85 staff and she experienced my coaching firsthand.  And she gave me the nudge to go out on my own - to leave my 17-year career - for something even better.  She saw the light in me and said the world needs me to share my true gifts.

So in 2016, I did it - I choose me and my gifts.

Here I am - sharing my gifts with people like you and helping people transform their lives and consciousness (are you one of them?).  And I love every minute of it!  I love mentoring and coaching my clients.  I love training and certifying other incredible coaches.  I love sharing spiritual teachings.  I love contributing to YOU choosing you and your expansion!

I love my work and I love my beautiful life.

My life wasn’t always as magnificent as it is now.  I came from a lower middle class family and was left to fend for myself from an early age.  I’ve been financially responsible since age 15.  Nothing was handed to me, but I was determined and I worked my a$$ off to create the life I always dreamed of - and that dream is now my beautiful reality. 

I dug deep and did my inner work (and I still do it in incredibly intentional ways and with lots of altered states of consciousness). 

My beautiful reality is the outer expression of my inner self and it all started with choosing me.

And this is what I love to help others do…to align the inner and the outer.  To help people create congruency.  I work magic WITH you.

Now, my lifetime of training and experience allows me to help you choose you so you can design, create, and live YOUR ecstatic life.

Welcome to me.  Dena / Dalai Grace, Minister of Magic, at your service.

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